Talking to your Children about the Parkland Shooting

The recent school shooting in Parkland, Florida has led us to realize how unpredictable and scary the world could be for our children. Due to the fact that this shooting occurred close to home, it is likely that we come into contact with individuals that have been directly affected. Many are asking why are school shootings and other mass shooting increasing and how can this stop. However, no one has these exact and immediate  answers. Although we often try to limit childrens exposure to media, children and adolescents are exposed to the news, social media, and other sources of information; therefore, it is important for parents to talk to their children about these events. We may often feel helpless when our children tell us that they are afraid to go to school, a place that may have been their safe place before this devastating event. Since children typically view their parents as protectors and advocates, it is time to take a stand and continuously advocate for them while providing them with the needed emotional support. The following are general recommendations for parents who would like to talk to their children about recent events as well as promote increased safety precautions in our schools.

First off, it is crucial to continuously allow your children to talk about their feelings and emotions surrounding this devastating event. Listening to your children will allow them to be open about their emotions and as a parent, you will gain better insight into their beliefs or fears. Being honest with your children will help them gain your trust and will increase the communication in the home. For children who fear that something bad may happen to them or their family need to be assured that there are many individuals, such as police officers, teachers, and their family members take precautions to make their environment as safe as possible.

It is also important to review safety precautions with children and adolescents. Having your child identify at least one school personnel that they could reach out to if they ever feel threatened or have concerns regarding their safety in the school may help them feel more secure. Students should also be taught how to identify and report behaviors that may appear suspicious or concerning in the school environment. Additionally, your children need to feel supported and many may want to find solutions to prevent other mass shootings. As humans, we often want to take action in order to lessen the feelings of helplessness and increase our feelings of effectiveness. Older children may benefit from writing to representatives or attend political events where they could have their voices heard. Parents should also take an active role in advocating for students through various school and political events. Children who witness their parents taking a stand by voicing their opinions regarding gun control or ways to make schools safer, will feel supported and protected. Parents are also encouraged to visit their childrens schools  and their districts school board in order to meet with school officials and participate in safety planning protocols. Reviewing your childs schools emergency preparedness plan will provide additional information about trainings offered at the school, drills that children partake in, and lock-down procedures. Being familiar with the emergency preparedness plan can help you identify how you could collaborate with the school in order to address areas that could be improved. Parents, teachers, and students who work collaboratively can influence government officials using petitions, newspaper articles, and letters to make important and effective decisions regarding safety. 

Finally, maintaining a structured and normal routine for your children is important. Although children tend to be resilient, there are warning signs that parents should be aware of after the occurrence of a devastating event. Warning signs may include behavioral, emotional, appetite, and sleep changes. Decreased academic performance, emotional outbursts, nightmares, excessive worrying, somatic symptoms, and changes in relationships are also signs that your child may be having a difficult time coping and professional help may be needed. Many parents may also have a difficult time coping with this tragedy and may also benefit from professional assistance. Contact Miami Psychology Group if you are interested in learning more about the therapy services that are offered by our licensed psychologists. We provide therapy services in Miami and Miami Beach areas.