It is estimated that approximately 80% of individuals will get their heart broken during their lifetime. Psychologists report that individuals may experience heartbreak as the result of numerous situations within their romantic partnership, family, and professional life. Rejection, infidelity, grief, sudden changes, and disappointments often cause individuals to experience heartbreak. Research has found that our brain’s reaction to heartbreak is similar to the neural changes that occur when we experience physical pain. This is why individuals often describe heartbreak as an intolerable and debilitating pain.
Having your heart broken is a difficult experience that many can relate to. Many often ask- is there a positive way to deal with heartbreak? The answer is yes. Although there is no simple way to cope with having your heart broken, psychologists report that the way an individual interprets a heartbreak, can significantly impact the psychological pain an individual may experience. We may not be able to prevent heartbreak, but we can work towards interpreting heartbreak differently.
Dealing with a heartbreak positively versus negatively
You might be wondering how can anyone deal with a heartbreak positively? Experiencing heartbreak positively does not mean sadness and suffering will not be experienced. However, positively dealing with heartbreak allows an opportunity for self-growth and self-exploration. When an individual interprets heartbreak negatively, they may develop strong core beliefs leading them to think they are not good enough and full of permanent flaws. Negative core beliefs often cause individuals to suffer from psychological pain and distress, leading to prolonged emotional difficulties that may impact all areas of life. Self-deprecating thoughts take over and cause us to spiral down the never ending rabbit hole, bringing us more pain and sadness.
When we feel rejected or heartbroken, it often feels like our world is crashing down; however, psychologists often recommend working towards finding your value. Believing in yourself and identifying your values is crucial while experiencing a difficult time. Making a list of your values and anything that ignites your passion will help you recognize your strengths. Keeping a gratitude journal where these values are recognized will help you recognize the things you are grateful for even in the most difficult time.
Reconnecting with oneself during a difficult personal experience is important. Seeking out therapy or counseling services is often a positive step. A psychologist will provide you with a safe, nonjudgmental place that will allow you to process your pain, grief, and sadness. Individual therapy services will also help you gain insight and awareness into your own emotions, core beliefs, and assist you in developing effective coping mechanisms. Additionally, research has shown that individuals dealing with heartbreak often benefit from connecting with others. Signing up for a cooking class, an exercise class, or getting together with close friends will remind you that you are connected to others. Developing or maintaining a support system during a difficult time provides individuals with healthy distractions, opportunities to connect, and reassurance that you are not alone.
Dealing with heartbreak is difficult and painful. Learning how to deal with heartbreak positively will provide opportunities for self-growth and prevent longterm emotional difficulties. A psychologist can help you cope with heartbreak positively and effectively. If you are interested in learning more about therapy or counseling services, please contact The Miami Psychology Group. Our psychologists provide individual, couples, and family therapy services and are available to discuss an individualized treatment approach for you.